Guidance, Care and Respect — When It Matters Most
The day of the funeral is a meaningful moment for families and friends. It can be emotional, and it may feel uncertain — but you will not be alone. At Lodge Brothers, we take care of every step with dignity, professionalism and compassion, allowing you to focus on remembrance and reflection.
Below is a simple step-by-step guide to help you understand what usually happens on the day.
Step 1 — Meeting Point or Family Home
Our team will arrive at the agreed location — this may be your home, the home of your loved one, or another chosen meeting point. If a cortege (or procession) has been arranged, the funeral director may lead on foot as a mark of respect. We will guide you through each step calmly and gently.
Step 2 — The Funeral Procession
The hearse will lead the way to the venue, followed by family and guests in limousines or private vehicles. If requested, the route can include meaningful locations — such as a former home, place of work or favourite landmark. We will keep you informed of timings and ensure every movement is made with dignity.
Step 3 — Arrival at the Venue
When you arrive, our team will be there to welcome and guide you. Pallbearers — either family members, friends, or members of our team — will carry the coffin with care into the chapel, church or venue. Flowers, keepsakes and personal touches will be arranged respectfully to reflect your loved one’s life.
Step 4 — The Funeral Service
This is the moment for remembrance. The service may include:
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Readings or poems
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Eulogies and tributes
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Eulogies and tributes
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Prayers or moments of silence
Whether religious or non-religious, traditional or contemporary, we will ensure every detail has been prepared — from seating to music — so you can focus on the occasion itself.
Step 5 — The Committal (Cremation or Burial)
For Cremations
The committal normally takes place within the crematorium chapel. This may include final words, prayers, or quiet reflection. Curtains may close, or the coffin may remain in view — depending on the family’s wishes. This moment is often deeply personal, and we will be there to support you.
For Burials
The committal takes place at the graveside. Words of farewell may be spoken before the coffin is lowered. Family members may choose to scatter soil or place flowers, tokens or letters as a final tribute. We will ensure the setting is respectful and the moment is taken with care.
Step 6 — Leaving the Venue
After the committal, guests are invited to leave calmly and respectfully. Some may prefer to pause by the floral tributes or speak to the family. We will manage this moment gently, allowing everyone to depart in their own time.
Step 7 — Wake or Reception
Many families choose to gather afterward to share memories, talk freely, and celebrate the life of their loved one. This may be held at home, in a community space, or at a chosen venue. We can assist with recommendations, catering and planning — should you wish.
Step 8 — After the Funeral
Our care does not end when the service is over. We can continue to help with:
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Collecting ashes (following cremation)
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Advice on memorials, tributes and urns
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Returning medical equipment
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Guidance on legal paperwork and probate
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Signposting bereavement support
We remain here for you — quietly, respectfully, whenever needed.
We Are Here to Support You
If you have questions about any part of the day, please speak to your funeral arranger. Every funeral is different, and we will make sure yours is arranged with dignity and care — just as your loved one deserves.
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